Sunday, April 16, 2006

Queer Eye for the Western Guy:

Check out The Gay Species's post reacting to my post on gays and human accomplishment.

In particular, he talks about some type of "ethereal" or "elusive" quality that gay men seem to have. (Being gay is more than just having sex with the same sex.) As I noted in the comments section, could this "quality" to which he refers be related to the so called "Queer Eye"?

1 comment:

The Gay Species said...

I appreciate the response.

As to this "elusive" feature or dispostion, I agree it most definitely is not "queer eye for the straight gay" kind of persona. It's not a characteristic at all. It's akin to a "sixth" sense, but so many sixth senses exist, that that is not a satisfactory answer either.

But it's definitely not a "characteristic" in the sense of some personality feature or expression. Yet, it's more than just a "dispostion," which still leaves us in an "ethereal" realm, which I, for one, don't feel comfortable in.

I'm certainly not the only one to allude to "this" aspect of "being gay," but as you observe, from my comments, but it's clearly more than men having sex with men, but whatever "it" is, none of us have come up with a satisfactory idea of it.

"It" has something to do with "recognition," also something to do with "disposition," also something to do with "orientation," also something to do with "connection," but after even these features, I still cannot identify it. Frustrating, yes, but I'll get over it.

Still, unless my instincts are wrong, and they sure could be, most gays connect to "it" in an ineluctable way. Indeed, it often overrides the desire to have sex with other men. It's an "intuition," for the lack of a better word, that makes two men, who otherwise would be competitive and aggressive in the evolutionary sense, lower their defenses and connect in more than a physical sense. "Spiritual" is off my charts, but it seems similar to those who claim a spiritual sense. "Emotional" is close, but it's not one of those usual ones we can pick out with our lexicon.

Yet, whatever "it" is, it seems remarkably pervasive, but only among some men, and almost exclusive among gay men. Not all gay men have it, but the overwhelming majority do. Maybe it's nothing more than dropping the aggressive "other" stance that usually attends when two males meet each other in a territorial sense, yet it still has a sense of something more involved. I don't like being untied by words, and being wholly incapable of expressing myself, but "this" one has me. "Ineluctable" will have to do until a better idea strikes.